I would be so bold as to suggest that life’s greatest happiness is found in good relationships, and life’s deepest hurt is found in bad relationships.” — Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages
Do you want to have better relationships with everyone around you? Do you want improved communication with your friends, family, and romantic partner?
“It’s called The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman,” the young guy yelled to me over the cheers for the baseball game. “I think you’ll like it.” I don’t usually read books recommended to me by random guys I meet in Texas dive bars, but this time I made an exception.
I read the book with zero expectations. The basic premise is that everyone “speaks” a love language that they use in their relationships with others. The idea seemed a bit fluffy to me at first. A “love language” sounded like something Oprah would talk about in her book club. But I gave it a go despite my doubts.
By the end of the book, I was a believer in love languages. Damn you, Oprah!
Things became more clear as to why I get frustrated with friends, family members, and romantic partners. Miscommunication is a huge source of misunderstanding and this book gave me ideas to reflect on as to why those miscommunications were happening.
If you want to have more successful relationships with others, it helps to know what kinds of love languages you and the people around you are speaking.
Do you want to find out which love language you speak?