“Nick, what’s wrong with me?”
I’ll never forget asking my friend that question after he didn’t invite me to his 12th birthday party. All my friends went and it hurt to be left out.
Rejection sucks. It makes us question our self-worth. What did we do wrong? We ruminate for days or weeks over something that can’t be changed. We make excuses to help justify it.
I’ve gotten better since I thought my life was over for not getting invited to Nick’s birthday party. I’ve learned how to deal with rejection. I’ve been rejected by employers for new jobs, women after asking them out on dates in front of their parents in busy restaurants, and strangers after they hated a blog post I wrote.
Just like you, I’ve learned through experience. But experience doesn’t always make the next rejection any easier.
Last week, my resolve for dealing with rejection was tested.
“Sorry, Eric…I’ve met someone else and I don’t think we have a romantic future together.” When I heard those words, my first instinct was to ask myself, “What’s wrong with me?”
But I didn’t. I did something else. And if you feel the sting of rejection, feel free to use my method. That’s kind of why I share these things with you…